You know that dish that you had just one time, yet still dream about…I have a few of those, but one that really stands out is a Pomegranate Fattoush Salad I had while on vacation in Montreal at Damas Restaurant.
Damas is an incredible and highly rated Syrian restaurant on Van Horne Avenue. The name is French for the capital of Syria, which in English we spell and pronounce – Damascus. This Syrian inspired restaurant is the brain child of Fuad Alnirabie, a Canadian-born Syrian chef, who has taken the city by storm. If you get the chance to go, I highly recommend the Eggplant Mutabbal, Muhammara, Grilled Octopus Salad, Filet Mignon Kabab, and of course the Fattoush!
Fattoush is an Eastern-Mediterranean salad with a crunchy bread base. Hailing from the Levant region (Israel, Jordan, Lebanon, Palestine, Syria, and Turkey), day-old pita inspired an entire food genre known as “Fatta,” or “Fatteh.” Every country listed above has their own version of what is mixed into this salad, but the basics are still there: stale bread and vegetables.
Two things stand out to me as to why Fattoush is so loved:
Bright colors: If something not only tastes good, but also looks good, it’s going to be an even better eating experience. All the fresh vegetables and fruits that go into this salad can be purposely chosen to create a rainbow of colors.
Fun texture: Between the crunch of the fresh vegetables are crispy spiced pita chips, which add even more crunch.
WHY THIS POMEGRANATE FATTOUSH IS SPECIAL:
The Fattoush that you can order Damas is not what you will find at other mediterranean or middle eastern restaurants. I know because I have ordered Fattoush at many a restaurant only to be disappointed it isn’t as good as the one from Damas. What really makes this specific Fattoush fantastic is that it leans into the pomegranate flavor with arils and a flavored salad dressing.
After scouring the internet, I finally found the recipe in French courtesy of Le Presse.* I love learning to make recipes. Though I usually end up with so many new spices, that I may not know how to use outside of just one recipe. So, in order to justify buying these new spices found in this recipe, allow me to give you some ways to use them in other dishes:
Za’taar is also great on pita bread or in a marinade for chicken.
Possibly another new ingredient to you in this recipe, is the Pomegranate Molasses. It can be hard to find at your everyday store. However, I found that my local Whole Foods had a couple options:
So, without further ado, here is the recipe…
*I have translated this recipe (thanks to google translate) and adapted some ingredients to make it a little more accessible for your everyday cook. You can find the full article in French thanks to La Presse, by clicking here.
This beautiful salad is great for sharing with others over dinner. If you are making this ahead of time, you can combine all the vegetables & fruits together, but add the crispy spiced pita chips and pomegranate vinaigrette when you are about to serve it.
This salad can be great on it’s own, but when paired with other delicious dishes, it can be even better. Here are some ideas for what to serve with this salad.
Millennials and Gen Z watching aren’t classic films as much as previous generations.
However, this certainly isn’t the case of a generation consciously killing classics. In fact, the “the Take” recently explained this phenomenon in a new YouTube video. To summarize, it’s mostly due to the amount of new content being developed AND that streaming platforms use algorithms that then prioritize this new content. Making it tougher to stumble upon these classic films (which we’ll be defined as anything made before 1970).
I personally grew up watching classic movies, so I thought I’d share my personal 5 favorite classic films in hopes you might seek them out and maybe even appreciate them as much as I do.
Directed by Charlie Chaplin, who is also the lead actor. This film is recognized by the American Film Institute (AFI) as the #11 greatest film of all time, in their 10th Anniversary edition.
This black & white film is also silent (no sound whatsoever), but don’t let those things deter you.
In this wholly adorable romantic comedy, Chaplin’s character, the “little tramp”, falls in love with a blind flower girl. He desperately, and often hilariously, tries to get the money needed to help her and ultimately live up to her ideal of him.
Directed by Joseph Mankiewicz and winner of the Oscar for Best Picture in 1950.
If Taylor Swift’s song, “Nothing New” feat. Phoebe Bridgers hit home, you’ll love this film.
This classic drama stars Bette Davis as Margo Channing, a celebrated yet temperamental, aging Broadway star, who takes ingenue Eve Harrington under her wing, only to have Eve threaten her career and personal relationships.
Directed by Otto Preminger and winner of the Oscar for Best Cinematography.
In this quintessential Film Noir, a Manhattan homicide detective investigates the murder of the beautiful and highly successful Madison Avenue Executive, Laura Hunt. In the process of solving the case, the detective becomes obsessed and even finds himself falling in love with the murder victim.
Gene Tierney, who plays Laura, is not your usual Femme Fatale with malevolent intentions, but she still has fatal effects.
So there you have it!
If you are looking to stream these films, try looking at HBO Max, since they acquired the Turner Classic Movies catalogue. You might need to pay to rent, but compared to renting newer content, the price is very low.
Thoughts on the movies listed above? Any classic films you would recommend?
While practicing social distancing, I’ve been missing going out for a really great cocktail. Since I’ve also got some extra time on my hands, I’ve been learning how to make some of my favorite cocktails right at home.
If you’re gathering for a virtual happy hour or just relaxing after a long day at the “office,” these cocktails can be a little sweet escape to when things were “normal.”
Please enjoy responsibly! Cheers!
A refreshing cocktail, perfect for enjoying the warm weather outdoors. I’m not a big fan of rum after a childhood encounter with it be poured on my fried ice cream to then be flambéed (gross!). But, white rum in a cocktail is delicious.
5 mint leaves
Half of a fresh lime, cut into quarters
2 oz. of white rum
1/2 oz. simple syrup
4 oz. Club Soda
In a glass, combine the mint sprigs and lime quarters. Using a muddler or anything that will help you muddle the ingredients, vigorous mash everything together to release the juice and flavors. Next, add the simple syrup and white rum. Finish it off with the club soda. Enjoy!
Usually a breakfast/brunch cocktail, this drink has more nutritious value than many others. While you can certainly created the Bloody Mary mix on your own, there is a really delicious and easier option, which is buying the “Tres Agave Bloody Mary Mix.” It’s available at most liquor stores or wherever alcohol is sold near you.
4 oz. Tres Agave Bloody Mary Mix
2 oz. vodka
Squeeze of lemon
Dash of cracked black pepper
1 pickle spear (garnish)
Combine all the ingredients together and stir. Pour over glass with lots of ice. Garnish with a pickle spear or celery stick. Enjoy!
Blood Orange Margarita
Whether you are celebrating Cinco de Mayo or just relaxing after work, this drink is always refreshing. You can serve this straight or blended with ice, salted rim or no salt at all, whatever you prefer.
3 oz. Tequila
1 tsp. Blood Orange Liqueur
2 oz. fresh lime juice
1 oz. simple syrup (half water and half sugar)
Kosher salt for the rim
In a cocktail shaker filled with ice, add all ingredients minus the salt. Shake vigorously. Take a lime wedge, cut a slot to rim the glass with the juice, dip in kosher salt plate to create salted rim. Pour shaker mixture into the glass and enjoy!
One of the first cocktails I learned how to make. I’m a big fan of Ginger Beer, so I’ve included my favorite company below. But, if you have something else you prefer, go with that.
6 oz. Crabbie’s Ginger Beer
2 oz. vodka
1/2 oz. fresh lime juice
In a cup filled with ice, pour in the vodka and lime juice. Top it off with the ginger beer. Add a lime wheel. Enjoy!
I love a great champagne cocktail and the French 75 is probably my favorite. It has a delightful fresh citrus and juniper taste, with lots of bubbles.
3/4 oz. fresh lemon juice
3/4 oz. simple syrup
2 oz. gin
In a cocktail shaker with lots of ice, combine the fresh lemon juice, simple syrup, and gin. Shake vigorously and then pour into glass. Top off with champagne. Enjoy with a lemon peel on the rim.
Whether enjoying by yourself, over a virtual happy hour, or with your quarantine buddies, be sure to drink in moderation. It can be easy to rely on alcohol when you become bored and just want something to do. In times when your health and the health of others are at stake, please keep in mind that drinking too much or too often will lower your immunity levels. Just a “sobering” reminder of how our actions impact others and can mitigate the disaster that is happening around us.
Cheers to discovering that your favorite cocktail is even better tasting when you make it!
I have always liked clothes. They give us all an opportunity to express ourselves, make a statement, and have fun. However, I wouldn’t say that I am particularly into the fashion you see on runways or in magazines. While “fashion” usually is about trends, I believe that “style” is about personal taste. I would say that my style is pretty classic and modest, nothing too funky or trendy. But, there is always a hint of retro going on.
While I don’t subscribe to trends often, there are a few that I can definitely get on board with, and hope stay around, such as: sustainable fashion (investing in well-made clothes, instead of cheaply made clothes that you need to replace often) and repeating outfits (even the Duchess of Cambridge is doing it).
Some trends become classic and timeless, making an appearance in generation after generation. Think “little” black dress, etc. Like families, fashion grows through each generation. Some trends stay, some fall by the wayside. Some make an appearance again. It is a cycle. The constant reinvention of style, through family culture and history, is what has really made an impact on fashion today.
As my mom was preparing to giveaway some of her clothes that she had been saving, I realized, being the sentimental person that I am, that they actually were kind of “in.” Many of the iconic pieces from this Fall Fashion Season, like menswear for women, 80s style, and autumnal coloring, were just sitting in my basement having not been worn for years.
So, I rummaged through the bags of clothes and found some absolute gems with meaningful stories behind them. Once I had pulled out my favorites, I asked my mom about each piece, and got to know her, my nana, and my great-grandmother better. It was a special way to feel connected. And it has been even better to wear each piece, knowing I am wearing a piece of my family’s’ history.
Instead of going out to buy another piece of clothing “made in China,” I can wear a vest made by my Nana, specially made for my mom when she was younger. Or, I can wear my great-grandmother’s swing coat, in “millennial pink.” Or, I can adorn my right ring finger with the beautiful and elegant engagement ring my grandfather, who I never got the chance to meet, gave to my grandmother, who I am named after.
All this came together, to create a blog post on how to wear some of your mom’s or older family member’s clothes from the past. I’ve included some instructions on the best ways to wear the pieces, why the pieces may be relevant today, and the stories behind the particular pieces I am wearing.
Fashion comes and goes, but like family, style is as personal as your DNA.
In a world where we can feel so disconnect from others, take the chance to physically connect with your family history by wearing pieces made and worn by your family. In your family’s closet you may find your new statement piece, iconic jacket, or holiday get-together outfit, that couldn’t be more “you” if you tried.
Shoulder Pads -> Symbolic of Changing Gender Norms:
With all that is going on culturally/politically for women, #ImWithHer Presidential Campaign, the #MeToo Movement, and more women taking on leadership roles in corporations, women are having a broader impact on society. And, we need the broader shoulders to match! I predict that these “woman spreading” tops will make a big comeback, or at least I hope they will!
Family Story: My mom bought this top in 1987 to wear to work with the black pleated skirt, seen below. At that time, everything had shoulder pads.
Oversized blazers -> Menswear for Women:
Menswear for women is very “in” at the moment. And so are the scotch plaids and houndstooth patterns. While this double breasted blazer is not as big as Lady Gaga’s most recent super-oversized suit, I hope it makes you just as powerful.
Family Story: It’s my mom’s blazer that is actually part of a suit. She bought it in 1987, when she had just finished her Master’s Degree in International Economics, and was working at BLS. It’s a working-girl look!
Camel, what a wonderful Fall and Winter color. While this blazer was not as oversized as the one before, it was just a bit too big. In these cases, you could either get the suit tailored, or you could just wear it large. That’s up to your personal taste!
Family Story: My mom went to visit my uncle in Paris in the Summer of 1983. She got the fabric at a “la-di-dah” fabric store on the Champs-Elysées. With this camel hair fabric she made herself a blazer. No shoulder pads were included!
Wool Vest -> Menswear for Women:
Oversized pieces of clothing are not usually my style. However, oversized is very “in” for women. I think it has a lot to do with emphasizing the differences between the female and male bodies. So, when you are wearing oversized clothing that makes your shoulders or chest area appear larger, juxtapose the look with something feminine like a hairstyle, make-up look, or jewelry.
Yearbook photos from when my mom taught art. Note the vest and the matching skirt in the left photo.
Family Story: My Nana made this vest for my mom when she was teaching art at a high school in New Hampshire in the early 1980s. There was a skirt that goes with it, that my mom actually made, but has unfortunately been lost. But, you can see it pictured above.
Similar to what I have said before, when wearing something that has a masculine flair, add in the contrast of a feminine piece. With this look, it is a more masculine look up top, so going with some heels on the bottom adds some feminine playfulness.
Family Story: My Nana made this vest for my mom at the same time that she was making the vest above. I particularly like the fun buttons, which my mom picked out. They are pewter, with a Celtic design to them. Good to know my mom has had the same taste for a long time.
Long Pleated Skirt -> Midi Skirt:
Midi skirts have a retro vibe to them. And, they always look best with some high heels. While women don’t have to be as modest about showing their legs as they had to be in the past, there is something so sweet and girlie about wearing a skirt this long. It would be a cute piece to wear for a day-date.
Family Story: This skirt has never been worn. In fact, I actually found it with the tag still attached. It turns out that my mom had bought it right before she found out she was pregnant with me. Sorry, mom!
Family Style: My mom liked this and wore it with the first top on this post. This informed her decision to get the pink skirt, pictured just above.
Tribal Print Dress -> Boho Chic:
Boho is so “in.” And, I honestly want nothing to do with it; it just isn’t my style or my taste. However, I did like the autumnal coloring and pattern of this dress. It would be a great dress to wear to a family gathering or event.
Family Story: This was my mom’s and she bought in late 80s. She liked the tribal print to it as well, though it definitely stands out from most of her other clothes, which gives me the hint that maybe my mom and I have similar personal styles.
High Neck Blouses -> Office Sophisticate:
While lacey-looks have been fashionable for a while, I usually find they resemble some sort of lingerie. This crocheted lace has more of an “everyday-look” to me, rather than the going-out look of most lace outfits. In fact, I even liked the flowers, which had a bit of a hippy vibe.
Family Story: This is the top that is in the featured picture. My mom got this especially for her senior year college yearbook photo.
Wearing a blouse or shirt that is loose and covers your neck almost completely to work looks very sophisticated. While women don’t have to be as modest nowadays, a fashionable top that shows a lot of personality can be just as fun as any other top you have in your closet.
Family Story: This top goes with the black oversized blazer pictured near the beginning of this post. My mom used to wear this to work, when everyone got a little more dressed up for work than they currently do.
Swing Coat -> Joan Holloway In a Woman’s World:
This is a Spring coat so it is not the warmest coat as it doesn’t button down to the bottom, but it is so cute. The color is fun, and is what some nowadays consider “millennial pink.” I love the style of this coat and hope we see more of this cut in the future.
Family Story: This coat is actually my great grandmother’s coat. My mom remembers when she was little sitting in her lap while her grandmother wore this very coat. We think she bought this in 1941 when she was going to my great uncle’s ordination. Later on, my mom wore it when it was in style in the mid-80s and overheard people on a bus commenting on it. (Pink was in at that time as well.)
Crocheted Beret – > Wintery Cute!
Last winter, I remember seeing everyone in pom-pom hats. Hopefully that continues to be a trend because I love the style and look. It’s just positively cute!
Family Story: My great uncle took a group of people on a tour to Ireland. While he was there, he visited some cousins in Limerick and brought back crocheted hats that a cousin made for my mom and her sister.
Black Beret -> “I’m Cultured”
The beret is a pretty timeless look. I’ve seen people for years wearing these hats all over the world. While they may not be as warm as a beanie, they still do a pretty good job during the winter of keeping your head warm.
Family Story: My mom actually used to call these hats “Tams.” So weird! But I discovered that a Tam o’Shanter is a flat hat, like this one, that men wear in Scotland, so the name reflects my Celtic roots. My mom used to wear Tams when she was a schoolgirl.
Rings in particular usually have a sentimental meaning. In fact, just this weekend I learned that one of my best friends wears her mom’s push present as an everyday ring. She happens to love rings and the meaning behind the gift is special to her. It was a fun coincidence, as I was working on this post, to hear about how family gifts get passed down.
For me, I have two rings that mean something special to me. The onyx with diamond chip ring, pictured on the left, is my Nana’s ring. My mom thinks my Grandpa gave it to her as a birthday present. It has a vintage vibe to it and luckily has the ability to be tightened or loosened depending on the wearer’s finger size.
The ring pictured on the right is actually my Grandmother’s engagement ring. My Grandfather, whom I never got the chance to meet, gave it to my Grandmother when they got engaged in the 1930s. After my Grandmother passed away at 100 years old, and as the granddaughter named after her, I got the chance to wear it, and decided to wear it every day. I was pleasantly surprised to find the ring actually fit my finger perfectly. I wear it on the right ring finger as a little reminder of her.
For men, I know some who have inherited rings as well as watches that are very meaningful to them.
Make sure to keep these items safe! While they may have market value, the sentimental value is worth so much more.
You never know what you may find when rummaging through your family’s attic or basement. You may even be surprised to find, as I did, that my style was not just personal to me, but rather a shared “family style.”
Remember, if pieces don’t fit, you can get them tailored. Some pieces might also need to be dry cleaned and stitched because of all the wear and tear over time. Make sure to check with the person who is currently holding onto the piece, to ensure it is okay to wear it.
Finally, I want to emphasize the importance of asking about the stories behind the pieces. Our parents most likely didn’t shop at as many clothing stores as we do now, and often made their own clothes sometimes. Knowing my Nana sewed a piece I am now wearing gives me a sense of connection to my past. It makes a piece more personal in a world full of impersonal and meaningless material clutter.
Trends come and go, but family is forever.
Be sure to comment below with some items that you wear from your family members!
The Winter Holiday season is upon us. It’s that time of year where we gather with family, friends, colleagues, neighbors and FOOD! For many of these events, we may be asked to bring a dish, maybe a dessert to share.
If you are looking to spice-up one of your favorite holiday desserts, then look no further than this list.
I’ve curated a list of my absolute favorite recipes to make for the Holidays. Each one of these are sure to be unique and delicious. As a warning, I will say they will all take longer to make than that box of brownies from the grocery store. I have included difficulty levels along with my tips for a flawless dessert, so you know exactly what you are getting into.
Personally, one of my favorite aspects about baking and cooking is challenging myself and adding a new recipe to my repertoire. Whatever I like best, I can then make it again and again. I hope you find a new favorite or two among these recipes.
Finally, I promise that there is no fruit cake included on this list. Because, yuck!
P.S. Find my mom’s Homemade Whipped Cream Recipe at the bottom of this page.
1.) Cranberry-Lime Pie with a Gingersnap Crust:
For those who love the tartness of key-lime pie, this is the perfect one for you to try. The cranberries add their own unique tartness to the mixture, along with festive coloring. The gingersnap/pecan crust is a playful twist to the usual graham cracker crust. It’s not just the custard filling that makes this dish unique. After a large meal, this tart treat is perfect.
Please find the recipe, courtesy of Bon Appetit’s website, here.
Difficulty level: Hard, with the need for certain kitchen technology and confidence in custard making, or just knowing how to carefully follow a recipe.
Alicia’s Tips: A dollop of whipped cream added on top really cuts the tartness of the pie and gives it a more rounded flavor. So make sure to bring homemade whipped cream! Also, double the cranberry/shaved lime topping for a really stunning, festive display.
2.) Dark Chocolate Mousse:
Who doesn’t love chocolate mousse? It is surprisingly simple to make. So simple, it maybe be dangerous to know. The first time I made this, I was making it for a guy I was dating at the time, and told him, through text, that I was making “chocolate mouse” instead of “chocolate mousse.” Don’t make that same mistake!
Please find the recipe, courtesy of Food Network & Bobby Flay, here.
Difficulty Level: Easy, but need electric hand mixer. The mousse needs 1 hour to sit in refrigerator after whipping.
Alicia’s Tips: When plating the mousse, use colorful berries, homemade whipped cream and coco powder to give a beautiful presentation.
This is my favorite dessert, all year, any day, any time! Before discovering a recipe for tiramisu, I thought I would never find anything as good as what I had at restaurants. However, I am excited to say that this recipe is better than anything I have ever had before. And, I even got to try tiramisu in the city where it was invented: Venice, Italy.
Difficulty Level: Medium, getting the custard just right can be nerve racking. Trust yourself!
Please find the recipe, courtesy of All Recipes, here.
Alicia’s Tips: There are many different ways to present these decadent layers. I like using a baking pan, rather than a trifle bowl. But, the trifle bowl does show the look of the layers. Serve it with coffee. Make sure to have decaf, if this is an after-dinner dessert.
4.) Chocolate Pecan Pie with Bourbon:
A little twist on a Thanksgiving favorite. Though the twist (adding chocolate) is not very daring – everyone likes chocolate! I first made this for a Friendsgiving I was hosting. It was a little different and quite a hit!
Please find the recipe, courtesy of Food & Wine, here.
Difficulty Level: Easy, as long as you use store bought crust…
Alicia’s Tips: If you are in a hurry or don’t want to deal with the hassle of making your own crust (like me), buy pre-made crust. Bourbon is not needed to make this pie delicious, but if you happen to have some on hand, go for it. If you don’t use bourbon, add 1 teaspoon of real vanilla extract.
Serving the pie warm really accentuates the gooeyness of the pecan pie filling and chocolate pieces. With a dollop of homemade whipped cream on top, this is perfect!
5.) Pumpkin Tart with Anise-Seed Crust:
Just because everyone else in the U.S. seems to like pumpkin, I included a pumpkin dish that even I enjoy. Pumpkin is not my favorite flavor at all. I think it is the over-use of cloves that gets to me. However, I found this tart to have a well-rounded flavor that was not overly “spiced.”
Please find the recipe, courtesy of Epicurious & Gourmet, here.
Difficulty Level: Medium – need tart pan.
Alicia’s Tips: With a dollop of homemade whipped cream on top, this is perfect. Are you starting to see a theme in my love for whipped cream?!
Crepes are an easy dessert to make and customizable. Essentially they are just a thin pancake. And, there are so many ways to add flavors. Nutella is a classic one, but lemon juice with powdered sugar is my favorite. Get creative with the fillings and with various ways of folding them for an interesting presentation. Maybe you want to roll them up, maybe fold them into a triangle. Anything goes!
Please find the recipe, courtesy of Epicurious and Julia Child, here.
Difficulty Level: Easy, though you need at least one hour for batter to sit in refrigerator.
Alicia’s Tips: Make extras for breakfast. If you have guests staying over, these are an easy way to feed them. Just store the extras on a plate wrapped with plastic-wrap and place in the refrigerator overnight. In the morning, dampen a paper towels to put on top of the layers of crepes as you microwave them for 20-30 seconds.
Also, dark chocolate mousse goes great with a crepe or two! Just add 1/2 cup of mousse onto a cooled-down crepe, roll-up, add a dollop of homemade whipped cream and chocolate shavings. Heaven!
I hope you enjoy these sweet desserts with your closest family and friends!
I want to encourage you to take time during the Holiday Season, with all the family gatherings, to get to know your older family members, whether it’s your parents, grandparents, aunts or uncles. Those who have more life experience are great coaches and friends to cultivate early in life.
I sat down with my dad to conduct a more formal conversation to gather wisdom to then share with you all. Hope his words inspire you to be yourself and enjoy the different periods in life.
P.S. Check out my dad’s classic recipe for a great dry martini at the bottom of this page.
My dad is older than most of my friends’ dads. Specifically, he was in his mid-fifties when I was born. Meaning he is now 82 years old!
As a child, I remember people thinking he was my grandpa and being confused on why they thought that. I just thought he had blonde hair, turns out it was white. Slowly, as I became more socially aware, I realized that my dad was much older than many other dads.
Having an older dad is a special gift for many reasons, including having a life coach who has a lot of experience and wisdom to pull from. In fact, the part of the relationship with my dad that I cherish most are his wise words. He provides perspective, when I feel stuck or in analysis paralysis. He reminds me that life is both long and short at the same time, that balance is important, and being thoughtful is a virtue to cultivate.
What is the best advice someone has ever given you? How has it shaped your life?
A president of a union I belonged to once said to me “If you always do what you’ve always done, you always get what you’ve always got.” It is a quote from Henry Ford. I try to ask myself “Am I satisfied with the result and what I did to get there?” If you find your results are not what you are looking for, especially during our changing times, it is time to evaluate, get more info, and a new perspective.
Another piece of advice I’ve gotten is, essentially, there is always an exception to every rule. Nothing is infallible, including this advice. It’s a truism, but an important one. Nothing is absolute, or cast in concrete, no matter who you are.
What are some of the ways that growing up now is different from when you were growing up in the 50s?
In the early 50’s, I was in high school. It was a tense time politically, because we were experiencing the beginnings of the Cold War. We had atomic bomb threats that led to drills to hide under our desks. In fact, this reminds me of the active shooter drills that children are experiencing today. We are always afraid of something.
At the time, Eisenhower was President and it was a kind of conservative era. But compared to now, it was a more “relaxed” time. After getting home from school, we went out and played. There were not a lot of extracurricular activities. It wasn’t as hectic as the world is now for teenagers. There was less media, not a bombardment of info.
But the good old days are not as good as we remember. A lot of issues around segregation, women’s equality, LGBT rights have gotten better overtime, but not entirely. Things don’t happen fast. There are always tense issues in a democracy. I believe “nirvana” and “peace” are unreal, although it appeals to people. That’s just not the human condition.
Any tips for guys navigating masculinity in the #MeToo Era?
It’s a good question and I think about it a lot. First off, behave yourself. I don’t think I need to describe what “behave yourself” means to most men. But, for those who don’t know, ask someone older than you. I see groups of men acting in very hurtful ways, wanting to humiliate people, hazing others, it’s disgusting. And, they seem to be trying to out-do each other in a competitive way.
Second, don’t try to emulate those who do not respect others. Doing the right thing does not emasculate you.
To me, masculinity is about doing the right thing, protecting others and taking the right kind of chances. There are a lot of heroic aspects to be a man. I hope more men can become those exemplary people. There a lot more questions about masculinity nowadays, and it’s not as defined as it used to be. But, things have gotten out of hand and men need to hold each other accountable.
Why did you decide to get married later in life?
I was never one to go along with common folk wisdom; “What you’re supposed to do.” When I was growing up, my parents were an exception in not asking me why I wasn’t married. Because my parent’s never asked, I never had the pressure.
I also didn’t put pressure on myself. Instead what I did was go to work, got paid for what I did, but I didn’t take a tremendous amount of satisfaction in it. It wasn’t my sole source of happiness. Then outside of the job, I took time to pursue hobbies and travel. I was still looking around, trying to figure out what is life all about!
It’s not that I didn’t date. I had an active social life, met some very nice women. But, no one was who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I thought when I meet the woman I want to get married to, I’ll get married.
I met your mother, who I thought was an interesting, lovely person to spend my life with. The timing was right because I wanted to be responsible for others and I had met the right person.
When I was younger, I didn’t feel confident in taking on the responsibility of marriage. My parents took their marriage very seriously, which set a good example for me. Marriage takes work and families need a lot of support. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to give that.
What would you say is the key to a happy marriage?
Poets, philosophers, and many others have puzzled over it for hundreds of years. I doubt I have the answer…
It’s a lot of different things. You need to care for another person by putting their interests ahead of yours at many times. You cannot be selfish, but you also have to make clear you have needs too, and find a balance. Talking things out, sometimes being uncomfortable in conversations that are still necessary, getting to know big likes and dislikes. You need to understand the person that you are close with, because it is your responsibility to get along. And, getting into the responsibility of getting married takes a lot of effort for some people.
I found it was easier to take on the responsibility and give time, since I had done what I wanted for so long. I was more mature, which was important for me.
What have been some of the benefits of having children at an older age?
As a benefit, I knew more about life in a very general sense. I was aware of what could go on. So having kids didn’t come as a shock or unimagined stress. I just thought, “this is the nature of the child, they’re growing up.” I didn’t have a great deal of need for collecting a library of child care books. I think so many of the theories are not as useful as common sense. Kids for millions of years have grown up in tons of situations, and they will survive. They are hearty characters!
Another aspect is that when you’re older, you think not only about how the child is learning from you, but also about how you are learning from the child.
What is something that you are concerned about with Generation Z and Millennials?
I have a couple of concerns. I see the millennials and generation z spending too much time on electronic devices. It seems like almost all waking hours. I just think that “contemplation” doesn’t go on very much anymore if you are wired to these gadgets.
By “contemplation” I mean removing yourself from outer situations, either physically or mentally, with something in mind to think about. It is a chance to reframe and allow your mind to be in a different place. Think about your decisions in a careful way. In fact, while contemplation usually happens in isolation, I believe that it may get you closer to other humans than say social media, news sites, etc. Looking inside of yourself is a great way to really understand humanity and how interconnected we all are.
I do want to mention that being connected to technology all the time has a lot of pluses. It is a conundrum, and we need to find a balance.
Allied to the concern with technology is also a concern about the quality of education. I remember driving your sister and her friends home one day, and one of Julia’s friends wanted to stay home from school the next day to play a video game on the day it was released. He thought it was “no big deal.” When I went to school, it was serious. I never played hooky. I wonder if education is viewed by both the students and others as less important nowadays.
Colleges have been turned into trade schools, meaning that students are taught hard skills to get jobs. Philosophy, drama or other liberal arts might fall by the wayside, because you need to get hard skills for jobs in the future. But, it comes with a price…people aren’t as well versed in history. They don’t feel compelled to look at situations from a different perspective; the human connection through education has been lost.
What do you think about popular culture nowadays?
I think the “herd mentality” of popular culture concerns me. It contributes to large part of society’s issues. It means that you don’t think a lot about what you want to do, just what other think you should do. And, that can be dangerous.
Personally, I am not “other directed.” If I am eating something, it is because I like it. People may ask me “Why are you doing that?” But I am “inner directed” thus I am not worried about what other people may think.
On the other hand, if people set a good example, the herd mentality of popular culture can be good. There are exemplars of the decent way to treat people. President Obama is someone who comes to mind.
What are some things that you love to do?
Listening to music. I have a lot of CDs that my family has given me. Mostly classical music. I enjoy sitting down, with a drink and listening to the music while looking at the line notes to better understand the meaning of the music.
I also very much enjoy reading, especially the Washington Post and New York Times. I also read articles online. Whenever I have a question, I go on the internet and explore. I’ll print off articles to read when I’m waiting around. You never know where your curiosity will lead you.
What has gotten you through difficult times in your life?
I have read about people’s great challenges, or deep depressions, or thoughts of hopelessness. I never had any of these. I’ve never had moments of euphoria either. It’s been a level road.
Taking care of my mother in old age has been one of the most difficult times in my life. However, I thought that if I used common sense and compassion, that would do it. I relied on my ability to deal with a challenging situation. I felt confident I could make it through.
In general, I would say: Take a breath, think about it for a little (contemplation), and then start acting. Be confident that you will do the best you can, no matter the obstacles.
Any career advice for those in their 20s or 30s?
Trying to figure out a career path is difficult. Some people are fortunate to know what they wanted to do from an early age.
Personally, I wanted to go into the foreign service. But, I didn’t end up in it. In the end, I’m glad I didn’t because I didn’t miss what was going on in the U.S. However, I kept up the foreign affairs focus, but didn’t work in the foreign service.
I think young people should look at their career in a balanced way. Look for a job that gives you enough money to do the things you want to do. There is that infamous quote: “no one on their death bed said I wish I would have spent more time in the office.” There is more to life than work. Find a balance.
Also, find meaning too. Don’t take jobs that will put you into an ethical compromise.
Are there any traditions that you have seen fall by the wayside that you miss?
I miss courtesy. Nowadays, you take what you can get, instead of considering others. I’m not talking about the phony kind of courtesy, but genuine consideration for others.
It about the ability to appreciate another person and recognize their existence. Without courtesy, it makes life more miserable than it has to be.
When I asked him how the interview made him feel, he said: It made me think about a lot of things. Which is the full-time occupation of octogenarians. I try not to bore people with my “old days” stories. In thinking about these questions, it brought a lot of clarity to me about experiences. It was fun and interesting to share.
I would say that during your lifetime, it is important to lean on those who are older, wiser and with more experience than you to help you understand the larger picture of life. Especially, during your 20s and 30s which seem to be such a time of transition.
No matter where you are in your building of your life, I hope that these shared thoughts can help put life into more perspective for you and inspire you to have a conversation like this with an older family member of your own.
Oh, Canada! It was about (read: ah-boot) time that I visited our northern neighbors. And they certainly lived up to all the positive stereotypes of being friendly & helpful.
Canada has given the world some media greats like Drake, Justin Bieber, Shania Twain, Celine Dion, Ryan Reynolds and more. Justin Trudeau, their current Prime Minister is a political icon and their Canadian imports have helped DC win a National Championship recently. Needless to say, Canada has a positive reputation to most Americans.
On a slightly related note: I highly recommend that anywhere you travel, that you listen to that Country’s top 50 list on Spotify and also check-out to see if there are playlists with just native artists featured. For this trip, it helped me “rediscover” Celine Dion and Shania Twain.
The 5-days that we spent in Canada were in the Province of Quebec, which is the only French-speaking province. So why prioritize this province over the others? If you identify with the following for any reason, I would say go for it:
You like churches, architecture, or are Catholic. (lots of churches to see, yay!)
You are a North American history-buff. Quebec is the beginning of Canada!
You want to visit a city near the U.S. with European flair.
You want to try your hand at French with the fail-safe of most everyone speaking English.
You like the idea of poutine (fries, gravy and cheese curds).
You’re looking for a summer-vacay spot that is culturally significant, without an expensive price tag. (The U.S. dollar is a bit stronger than the Canadian dollar.)
You’re favorite season is winter and you don’t mind being cold beyond feeling.
While the best time to visit is in the Summer and early Fall, when the temperatures are warm, but not overwhelmingly hot, winter time is also great. Consider visiting during the Christmas season to experience the warmth of the holidays or in early February for the one of the world’s largest winter festivals. Just be prepared for some extremely cold weather!
The following are recommendations for spending a few days in these two cities.
Upfront preview: take lots of walking tours.
Flying to Montreal:
Use Porter Airlines to fly to Toronto, and then connect to Montreal. It’s quite cheap to fly on Porter, though they have propeller planes, so the ride is a bit noisier than a jet.
Where to stay in Montreal:
I suggest booking a hotel in downtown Montreal. This will give you the ability to walk around more, rather than using auto-transportation. To the east of Downtown will be Old Montreal, to the north will be Mount Royal, and to the west will be a few museums. Downtown is central to tourist locations.
Getting around Montreal:
The airport is about 25 minutes away from the downtown area. There are plenty of taxis to take, and Uber is available, however Lyft is not (at the moment). If you are just staying in the city, I would recommend not renting a car. There are lots of public transportation options, including buses and metro services. They also have a local all-electric car company called Teo Taxi, that even features Teslas. Though I was informed that the Tesla part of the fleet is really only about 5%. So the likelihood is much higher that you would actually get picked up in a Nissan Leaf. Take your chances there!
Our first day began in the later part of Monday afternoon, so we decided to hit some of the big tourist spots first, before heading to dinner.
First, we made a walk down our street to the Cathedral of Marie-Reine-du-Monde. It was quite spectacular, and actually a scaled down version of St. Peter’s Basilica in Vatican City.
From there, we headed to a spot near the bottom of Mount Royal, called St. Joseph’s Oratory. This minor basilica is a pilgrammige location for those looking to honor St. Jospeh, Jesus’s Step-Father. It is the largest church in North America and is quite stunning for it’s size and modern interior.
If you can, try to time your visit around 1:30 pm or 3 pm so that you can get a 90-minute tour of the Oratory. You can find out more about tours by clicking here.
After our visit, we headed off for our restaurant reservations at one of the best rated restaurants in Montreal: Damas! Damas is the French way of pronouncing and spelling what we call in English, Damascus, the capital of Syria. I was excited to try the Syrian cuisine. When we arrived, we were led to our table towards the back of the restaurant. Each room was decorated a bit differently, but all beautiful & themed. Our waiter described it as being similar to how royal palaces were decorated in Syria. It was a lovely environment.
Syrian food, is similar to other middle eastern food in that it is mostly shared dishes, focuses on appetizers like dips and salads, and has complex tastes. We ordered muhammara, baba ghanoush (both the Syrian style – a revelation- and the more well-known dip version), grilled octopus, fattouche, pita bread, and a steak aged for 60 days…needless to say, we were in absolute heaven. Out of all the places we ate on our trip, this was by far my favorite restaurant and a place you will not want to miss.
We left very full and happy back to our hotel to rest up for a long day of walking tours the next day.
Tuesday, we woke up, had croissants and coffee at our hotel, and headed towards the St. Lawrence river, where Old Montreal City was founded. Our first two walking tours were with Guidatour, which provides tours of both West & East Old Montreal over the course of a day.
Some highlights of our tour included:
Notre-Dame Basilica, which, on the outside, is almost a replica of the Notre-Dame in Paris. However, inside it was inspired by Sainte-Chapelle, another church also located in Paris. Fun Fact: Celine Dion was married in this Basilica. At night time, there is a light and music show featuring the organ in the back of the Basilica that has over 1,000 pipes. Click here to access tickets.
Learning about the two co-founders of Montreal, Paul de Chomedey de Maisonneuve and Jeanne Mance, who originally named the city “Ville-Marie.”
Understanding the evolution of Montreal as a city, its role in Canada’s politics/economy, and its recent new developments.
The start of the Canadian banking industry.
How the culture has appreciated both its French & English heritage.
Montreal’s underground tunnel system (not the metro!).
The relations between the First Nations of North America, Missionaries, and New France.
After our tour, we headed to the Montreal’s archeological and history museum, Pointe-a-Calliere. What is special about this particular museum is that it is housed on actual historic locations, and allows visitors to see up-close and personal, the foundations of the first settlement of Montreal, and the changes that occurred over time. Most of the museum is underground…
From there, we headed off to get drinks at a speakeasy, called the Coldroom, before dinner. To get in, you have to know exactly where the door is located. Using the navigation on your phone, you can track down the door, ring the bell and be seated in a cozy, wood-paneled room with interesting people. I had one of the best cocktails I’ve ever had here…and unfortunately cannot remember the name or ingredients. Ah!
Finally, we headed off to dinner, at Le Robin Square, where we got a Cornish Game Hen.
After dinner, we took the chance to see projected stories of Montreal’s history. The recent installment of these projectors, projecting videos on to historic sites, was pretty cool and interactive. All you need to do is download the app: Montreal en Histoires. Then, using the app, locate the different projection sites and watch as your an interactive video is displayed, telling you more about the founding and history of Montreal.
Finally, on our last day in Montreal, we headed out to the Mile End area of Montreal City for a food tour. This is the more artsy/creative area of Montreal. It has a vibrant food scene, which we devoured. One of the main delicacies is the Montreal bagel, which you can find at St. Viateur’s Bagel Shop. Their bagels are sweeter and more doughy, than the ones you will find in NYC. Click here to access the Local Montreal Food Tour website.
Things we missed in Montreal, due to time, that I would still recommend:
Parc de Mont-Royal. The park was designed by Fredrick Law Olmstead, considered the father of American Landscaping, whose most famous park is Central Park in New York City.
St. Patrick’s Basilica, the oldest English-speaking church in Montreal.
Montreal Museum of Fine Arts.
Musee Redpath at McGill University, a natural history museum.
Montreal Places to eat:
Breakfast or lunch at Olive et Gourmand in Old Montreal.
Damas for dinner. It is a beautiful & delicious restaurant that serves Syrian food. It was hands-down the best dinner we had all trip!
Le Diperie for dessert.
St. Viature for authentic Montreal bagels.
The Coldroom for drinks.
Vin Papillion for wine & relaxing.
Go to Atwater or Jean-Talon markets for snacks.
Drogheria Fine for gnocchi with tomato sauce voted #1 in Montreal.
La Panthère Verte for Montreal’s best falafel (and vegan eatery).
Wine at Les Deux Gamins.
Transportation from Montreal to Quebec City:
To get in between Montreal and Quebec City, I recommend taking the Orleans Express bus. It is a 3 hour drive and is inexpensive, compared to flying or taking the train. The locations of pick-up and drop-off, in both Montreal & Quebec City, are near the older areas of the cities, where you would most likely be staying.
Where to stay in Quebec City:
In Old Quebec is best, since it will allow you to walk to most of the tourism areas.
Getting around Quebec City:
Mostly walking. It is quite steep in some areas, meaning there are a lot of steps to climb or a hill to slowly crawl down. Be prepared to walk a lot, since many areas, especially near the water, are not accessible by cars. Uber is available when needed, along with bus and metro transportation.
In Quebec, we took 3 tours with Tour Voir Quebec, because they were so highly rated on TripAdvisor. Our first tour was of Old Quebec, where we learned about the discovery of Quebec, the subsequent British take over and finally the founding of the nation-state of Canada.
Compared to Montreal, Quebec has more historical churches and structures that survived over time. Also, Quebec is technically older, as it is the place Jacque Cartier first discovered on the French exploration to find a passage to India.
Of the many things to see on the tour there is:
The stunning Chateau Frontenac, which you can actually stay in.
Fields of Abraham.
The oldest grocery store in North America.
A church turned into a library, now call Monique-Corriveau Library.
Quebec City’s own Notre Dame Basilica.
After we finished our morning walking tour around the city, we grabbed a quick and light lunch, before heading on our food tour of Quebec City. There are so many interesting delicacies to try. I find that anytime I am traveling, my favorite part is eating, since you get a really feel for the culture through their food.
We tried their version of mulled wine, lots of Maple products at Le Delices and of course, Poutine. For those who don’t know what poutine is, it is French fries, covered in gravy and topped with cheese curds. I knew I wasn’t going to like it, but still tried it anyway. I think its something you have to grow-up with to appreciate. A+ for creativity, Canada!
After finishing our food tour, we checked out a few places of interest and rested before dinner. At around 9 pm, when we were finally hungry again, we ventured out. We ate at Chez Jules, a traditional French restaurant. I ordered escargot and steak tartar.
The next morning, we woke up, got ready and headed off to our final tour of Quebec City, which the tour group called “A Fabulous Country Tour.” The highlights included Montmorency Falls (which are 99 feet higher than Niagara Falls), a lunch visit on the Island of Orléans and finally a visit to the stunning Basilica of St Anne de Beaupre.
At Montmorency Falls, there are cable cars to take you to the top. Once there, you can go across a bridge to stand directly over the rushing water. It was pretty thrilling!
At the Basilica of St. Anne de Beaupré, we were stunned by the sheer size and gold decor of this basilica in a rural area. I would say it is in my top 5 most beautiful churches I’ve ever visited.
If I was to do these activities again, I would have given more time for all 3 of these stops, but we did enjoy the chance to see the places, even if we missed out on certain sections.
Quebec City Places to Eat:
Le Buche, for an authentic brunch/breakfast.
Le Continental, for a pricey dinner.
Le Lapin Saute, for a rabbit themed menu.
Le Delices, for maple everything!
Chez Jules, for a traditional French menu.
Drinks at L’Atelier.
I hope this post has inspired you to visit Montreal & Quebec City. If you have any questions, please feel free to comment.
Also, for my viewers who have already been to these two cities, am I missing anything?
Give the Gift of Georgetown was an established giving campaign hosted in December before I came into the role with Georgetown. However, I wanted to bring a stronger brand identity to the campaign to both excite new donors and motivate class ambassadors to reach out to peers to give. To do this, I created a strong visual identity with 46 unique images & videos, designed a responsive website, and conducted email marketing campaigns. The campaign was extremely effective and resulted in an increase of 58% in year-end donor participation.
Give the Gift of Georgetown was an 8-day long giving campaign to see which class could get the most new donors between Dec. 1st and 8th, 2020. There were 5 classes competing in the competition.The overall goal was to recruit as many new donors as possible in support of Georgetown.
I started off with the idea of creating a snow globe with Georgetown’s iconic buildings inside. However, that became too busy of a visual, and so I used the scene from inside the globe as the main logo.
Through the use of both Adobe Photoshop and Canva, I was able to create 46 unique images & videos, which were shared with all ambassadors to post on both personal and official social media accounts.
Having experienced the power of a responsive and constantly up-to-date giving website through previous Giving Days, I decided this campaign could really benefit from having a website as well. I knew our marketing team would not have the bandwidth to be able to create a unique website, so I made one myself.
I created a landing page using google sites for all GGG info. The two most important aspects were that it was meticulously updated, with donor numbers updated every 2 hours during the week, and a countdown image was updated daily to increase the urgency to donate.
As you can see above, I used “Call to Action” buttons to draw attention to what I wanted the user to do. This resulted in 59 unique users clicking the links to give a total of 82 times.
I used Google Analytics to tag the site and watch how users interacted with the site. The site was viewed 209 times, by 168 unique visitors. Of the user views, 59.2% were on a mobile device, while 40.2% were on a desktop.
I created a unique link to shorten the URL and allow for brand recognition wherever it was posted: https://bit.ly/GivetheGiftofGeorgetown. (To Note: this site is currently not updated or accessible to me.)
FUELING THE COMPETITION
This unique online marketing campaign was incredibly successful. Check out the results.
Given the innovative nature of the GOLD Network, I needed seed-money to be able to launch initiatives. In partnership with a cross-team colleague, we turned to the Madison Trust, a major donor funding-competition, where we presented a shark-tank like proposal. By effectively and succinctly communicating the research, approach, and strategic value, we were successful and received $12k of seed-money.
In 2014, the Madison Trust was launched as a way to fuel JMU innovations through contributions from philanthropic investors.
Given our office’s tight budget and lack of flexibility, I needed to look for funding for GOLD Network initiatives elsewhere. Therefore, I turned to the Madison Trust both in a practical way and a symbolic way to get more established alumni carrying on their legacy of giving by inspiring young alums to do the same.
From there, I partnered with a colleague in the Alumni Relations Office who was beginning to work on Career & Networking for Alumni. Together, we wrote a proposal and outlined a budget that was chosen to move forward to the final stage of the Madison Trust, a compelling 10-minute presentation in front of the philanthropic investors.
Below you can watch the full presentation, along with the Q.A. section.
With strong research behind us, we were successful in our pitch and received $12k of seed money. These funds supported both Career & Networking Month and Giving Day stewardship.
You can read more about the outcomes of each of the projects by clicking here: [Integrating YA Needs]